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This is my 2^nd favorite day to do pickup in the entire year: New Years.  Think about it: everyone’s drunk, kissing as the ball goes down and looking to have a good time.  It’s not like this is a little cultural thing either because the whole world tunes in to watch the ball drop in NYC.  Now, assuming that you don’t see the obvious signs (such as that movie, I believe it’s called 1,000 cigarettes, where everyone’s hooking up on New Years, or even that scene from Forrest Gump), it’s easy to see why it’s easy to capitalize on this party.  For starters, if you keep your ear to the ground you can hear about SOME kind of party.  You can be a little hobbit in a hobbit hole (or a fat dude in his 40’s living in a basement) and still have at least a decent shot at getting invited to an office party where people will be bringing women or hear about a decent bar where you can count down shoulder to shoulder with a bunch of drunken strangers looking to score. 

I’ll hopefully be doing a bit of research to give a better analysis, but here are the 2 basic elements to be successful: 1: Be the life of the party.  This means being the first guy to do a keg stand, make some jokes, take everything lightly and keep in mind everyone there is there to have a good time, not to see how tough or alpha or cool you can be and 2: Stand out in a positive way.  When you’re standing out you can do it in any way you want (in fact you should be standing out in a way that you want regardless of what other people think [within reason]), but I myself will be going with some giant Elton John glasses and a happy new year tiara if I can find them.

Relax, have a few drinks and let the good times roll amigos.

-Diggz Out

Last time I was out, I was going out with a couple of buddies to celebrate my friends return from Iraq.  I promptly went rugby player/frat boy, and b/c my friends don’t know anything about my involvement in the community (much like my involvement as a super hero) they had some reactions that I wasn’t used to.  Basically, they didn’t like the fact that I was taking risks talking to new girls as often as I was (I got blownout a couple times, though I was in a few sets pretty well and got a few number closes).  I found myself stating a few things that are central to the PUA mindset.  

First and foremost: what the hell are the chances that we’re going to see these people again?  I grabbed a random couple, introduced myself nicely and said “hey guys, about how many people live in Boston?”  My friend chimed in and said somewhere around 500,000 I believe.  “Great, so what do you think the chances of us running into anyone we meet tonight and recognizing them is?”  My friends all went silent; they never really put it straight in their heads that they could embarrass themselves as much as they want and as long as it was in a place that wasn’t part of their regular routine, it would never get back to them (or at least the chances of it getting back to them were minimal).

After conquering social karma, I then walked us away from that group we were chatting with and said “Alright, so why did I do that?  The answer is simple: it was to illustrate a point, and now that we know we’re not going to see these people again unless we want to, who cares what they think about us?”  What I really wanted to ask my friends was why they weren’t as free as they wanted to be, suffering at the gruesome hands of the whims of the masses.  I think that there’s something very important in the PUA subculture that most people don’t realize: it’s liberating.  Free yourself from caring about what people who will never see you again think of you, and you’re halfway there.

-Diggz Out

Unfortunately, there’s always a wild card when making plans; your health. Mine has just failed me; I have bronchitis and will be unable to take my LSAT test. While this sucks for me, this shouldn’t affect my site much because I’ve done almost all the studying I possibly could and I can now focus on other aspects of my life more while I study just enough to make sure my scores don’t start dropping for my February test (though this means I’ll have to wait another year until law school).

Unfortunately I haven’t been sarging (due to the fact I’ve been busting my ass in the library), so I’m going to use this post as an opportunity to announce my plans for a book: I’m going to write a book about the ins and outs of the community and what newbies can expect to get out of it, such as giving some insight into things like the roles of professionals, the lairs, ect…

I recently received an email from a newbie asking for some advice, and I’ll be meeting up with him (hopefully) to speak with him about what info new guys would find most useful so I know what to cover in my book. Obviously I’m going to offer him my opinion about a wide range of topics, and this meeting will benefit the both of us. I encourage anyone out there to email me at Diggzpua@yahoo.com if you have any questions about the community, lairs, or anything else PUA related. Or, better yet, if you’re new and in the Boston area I might be able to get together with you to see what kind of questions you have (can’t promise I’ll have all the answers at that point in time) and what kind of information beginners need nowadays.

I’m going to be out of commission for a week or so, and then I have to run back to NY for surgery (which will take another few weeks for me to heal from), but hopefully I’ll be making posts and you can expect more stories/tips in the near future.

-Diggz Out

Sorry I haven’t been able to post in a bit; my goal of a post every day has been shattered by the crippling amount of brain power studying for the LSATs requires (man, I hope lawyering is more fun than studying for standardized tests).  However, December 2nd quickly approaches (a lil too quickly if you ask me; this stuff’s hard to learn) and soon I will be a semi-free man once again.  Also, I’m payin some guy in Norway to fix my site, so with any luck it’ll be fully functioning soon.

Now then, back to business.  This is a good field report from  lifestyle with bg, I think you’ll like it:

Okay, I gotta keep it short.. I met up with this bisexual, polygamous girl last night. ‘t Was fun. I took her to this bar close to where I live, we talked about music, concerts, festivals, etc. I ran a new routine of mine, which I call “Hollywood Porn Actor”, but I can’t share it yet.. Soon though. We decided we were hungry and decided to walk somewhere to eat. We exchanged first memories, I tested her visualisation ability (front door of the house she grew up in) and then I ran the Cube on her. She liked it, asked me what my cube is (big IOI), I told her. We order food. She tells me about some guy at a party that ran strawberry fields on her (WTF, haha) and how she totally blew him off. (too bad dude, if you want to train your skills give me an email)

We ate, meanwhile it was 10 to 10, she wasn’t going to be on time for her sexdate. Whatever. We walked over to her car, we stood out there, and were talking for like 45 minutes, we really clicked. Then we went inside her car. Her primary (boyfriend) calls her, asks her to swing by. She tells him she’ll be there at twelve. At twelve we’re still talking. She gives me a compliment that I’m the most interesting guy she’s met in a long time. I tell her to give me another compliment. Then I suggest that I will name things, and she’ll agree or disagree, because that’s an easy way to give compliments.

“Wait. Let’s switch that around. YOU name things. And I’ll give you compliments… that’s the only way in which I give compliments.”

Though the girl is HSE, she couldn’t help me with qualifying her, haha. Anyway, at some point we’re sitting in her car, and she’s like “I should go.. I promised my boyfriend I would’ve been there by now” (it’s past twelve now).. I tell her that she should go. She tells me she doesn’t want to, but on the other hand does. I ask her if there’s any condition that has to be fulfilled before she can leave (haha). Right now I’m really teasing her with the fact that she can’t leave before we kiss.

Anyway, at some point we’re talking. She interrupts me, and as I continue she starts kissing me. Holy shit, I’ve never met a girl who kisses that well, but okay. I keep my composure, I keep teasing her, pulling away, saying no when she knows I mean yes, all those things.

Here’s my sticking point though.. I have no clue how to escalate to kiss-close if I know the girl wants to kiss. I’m not kino-ing properly (usually I am, but on a lot of occassions I’m not), and that fucks me up. I figured out how to let the girl take the initiative though and to her it seems like I have all the power, but in fact I depend on the initiative of the girl to do what I want. So I gotta get this SP FIXED.

I’m quite confident that a LR is on it’s way. Or at least a lay. I don’t think it’s interesting enough to post, because next time I’ll see her it will be simply kiss –> escalate while playing around a bit and —> fuck. That’s it. And if I perform like I normally perform, I’ll have a FB. Good start of a new sarging season.

Carpe noctem.

Here’s a post from my roommate’s site. Unfortunately until I resolve a host dispute I won’t be able to put up the diagram promised, but I’m sure I’ll figure something out. Now read the brain-droppings of our very own PUA mad scientist, Spirit Fingers:

“Empower Your Voice”

“It’s not what you say, it’s HOW you say it”

Two people can say the same exact words and get totally opposite reactions. Why? What makes others embrace or reject your words? Well there are several elements of successful delivery and they are very subtle! One of them is how you speak with your body, but we will get into that in a bit. On the vocal tip, there are a number of ways that you can communicate more effectively.

Projection
This was a huge problem for me. Even when I had something interesting to say, people would ignore me because my voice was weak and nasally. I knew something was wrong with me, but it took the help of one of my good friends, who is an actor, to pinpoint the problem. He taught me this simple yet effective exercise that transformed my voice from dud to stud.

1. Take a deep breath using your diaphragm. You do this by paying attention to your gut. When you breathe in, your chest should not rise, rather your stomach should rise. Envision your belly button moving AWAY from your spine as you inhale. Breathe in slowly and deeply.
2. Once your lungs are filled, open your mouth and say “ahhhh” at a comfortable pitch, as you are making this sound, close your mouth so it becomes “Mmmmm”
3. Sustain the sound of your voice but gradually lower your pitch. When done correctly, you will feel a vibration travel from your throat all the way down to your gut. Change your pitch up and down until you can feel a line of vibration stretching from your belly to your throat.

When you have honed in on the strongest vibes, you are generating what scientists refer to as “Sympathetic Frequency”. It is the optimum vibration that makes your body resonate with the sound of your voice, giving it a much fuller and richer sound. I did this exercise everyday until I got comfortable with my frequency and it made a HUGE difference! Everything I said took on a new meaning and I found that more people wanted to listen to me.

Dynamics
Fluctuate your pitch. Nobody wants to listen to a monotonous drone! The most engaging speakers modulate their voices and their speech becomes almost song-like. Listen to any great talk show host, actor or comedian and try to mimic their “song” by humming it. This exercise opened a new world of communication for me!

Definitive Statements
While you are working on your dynamics, pay attention to how you end your sentences. If you tend to finish them on a higher note your statements will sound like questions and you will seem unsure of yourself (???) Practice getting your downswing on so people don’t think you are some wishy-washy pansy-ass. (!!!)

Pace
Trynottotalktoofast and bunchallyourwordstogetherinonebreath, it is unnerving and makes whatever you say seem trivial. Keep your tone slow and deliberate, let those words pour from your throat like honey. Pause for effect often throughout your convos, especially before the high points. Watch politicians, preachers and great storytellers and you will see that dramatic pauses are a great way to make people ……………. anticipate your words!

Avoiding Brainfarts
I discovered I had this problem when I got this crazy idea to record a daily journal on tape. When I played my voice back I was surprised by some disturbing patterns in my speech. At first it was subtle, you know? I uh, really didn’t notice anything unusual. Um, but as I uh, listened, I found that my uh, sentences where um peppered with what I call Brain Farts. So many ‘uh’s um’s and ‘you know’s were covering up the fact that I was not thinking in complete sentences. It is really annoying when people do this because you can tell they are just talking out of their asses. Amazing what a difference it makes to think before you speak!

NOTE: I highly recommend recording your voice and listening to yourself. It’s a great way to improve on your weaknesses.

Seductive Tonality
Learn to really enjoy the sound and feeling of your own voice. When speaking with hot babes, try to imagine that the vibration of your vocal chords are giving her ears a slow, sensual massage. Did you know that the low frequency of a male voice is capable of making other peoples bodies vibrate subtly? Just like when your neighbors are throwing a party and all you can hear is the “Thump Thump Thump” but all the high frequencies are cut off. Your tone can travel and penetrate everything around you, including that fine-ass HB you are chatting up Aint it grand to be a man? When you really want to go in for the kill, get closer to her and soften your tone, project like before but make it raspier, softer, SEXIER.

Content
As the series progresses we will get into the sort of things you should be saying, but for now, let’s focus on topics that you should try to avoid. You want to project a fun and easy going vibe so don’t bring the following topics up, and if SHE starts talking about them, humor her but change the subject, because these may be stimulating convos to have with a buddy, but they will not have the desired effect on the girl. Trust me! I used to make this mistake all the time. Try to steer clear of:
• Religion
• Politics
• Conspiracy Theories
• Sad Themes (World hunger, war, disease, etc)
• Bitter Themes (she won’t wanna hear what a stupid wh0re your ex was)
• Technobabble (girls are not impressed by your coding abilities)
• In other words, anything NEGATIVE or BORING!

Making Phat, Funky Beats
This one is critical! Repeat after me…

BOOM TICKA BAP TICKA TICKA BOOM BAP TICKA
BOOM BOOM BAP TICKA TICKA BOOM BAP TICKA
BOOM TICKA BAP TUH-BAP TUH-BOOM BAP TICKA
BOOM BOOM BAP TUH-BOOM TUH-BOOM BAP TICKA

The “BAP”s are spoken at a higher pitch.. repeat this phrase for a bonus beat-box lesson..what can I say, I am feeling extra generous today! Yes, I know this has jack sh!t to do with seduction and I am completely crazy. Moving on..

It has taken time and practice, but these days I get compliments on my voice all the time and am confident enough to bust some rhymes in front of a crowd, not too soft or loud, my tone’s often proud with no apologies please I freeze all the wannabes with my buttah steez as I get lost in sound! Oh yes I mack hotties when I bless the party, work em up with the voice, then I finesse with the body!

My buddy and roommate Spirit Fingers recently gave a big presentation to the Boston Lair on sex and his new book, The Sex Revolution Handbook. You can check out the first part of the presentation here:

Sex Blitz 7: Free Sex Advice for Men 

Location, location, location… I’ll have more details about my sarge from last night up soon, but suffice it to say that I started my night by ordering two pints and I slammed the first one down before the bartender could start pouring the second (my buddy whom I haven’t seen since he left for his tour of Iraq with the Army over a year ago returned home and last night and so it was a real cause for celebration). One thing which struck me was how important positioning is in set, ESPECIALLY if there’s a lot going on (i.e. loud music or other distractions). I was out with a guy who doesn’t know anything about PUA, BUT he’s a natural and good looking enough to be a model.

I opened a 2-set with by vibing on the current music (I’m an 80’s kid and I asked the girls who was singing the song that was playing and they got excited and said Paula Abdul. From there I started talking about 80’s music, how the New Kids on the Block weren’t didn’t deserve to be slammed the way they were, 80’s culture [saved by the bell anyone?], ect…) and things were going great until he switched targets on me. The other target was as attractive as my original target and I wasn’t particularly attatched to my current target, so although it’s bad ettiquette to do so unprompted I didn’t mind. The problem was that we had good positioning before with each target in front of us, and then we found ourselves in a situation where we were talking diagonally to each target, and crossing conversations is always difficult (think of it like in Ghostbusters how you didn’t cross the streams), ESPECIALLY in this situation because the music was pretty damn loud.

In order to alleviate the situation, I said “Hey, 80’s hug!” and stepped in front of my wing and hugged my target, while he took the hint and took my original position (great wingmanship for a guy who’s never winged me before) and we continued our conversations. My conversation got a bit deeper, so I grabbed my targets drink and asked her friend if she could guard it for her for a bit and when she agreed I grabbed my targets hand and led her outside so we could talk with fewer distractions (good compliance and isolation). We vibed outside for a while and then went back inside when she started shivering. Upon meeting up with our friends they left for the bathroom and my wing left me to get a drink. This left me alone, which is pretty bad, so I rejoined some of our other friends close enough to where we were chatting that the girls could find me easily.

The girls came back and said they had to leave, so I told her “and this is where you offer me your number.” She retorted that she wasn’t going to just give her number away without being asked, so I grabbed her jacket, pulled her in a bit and said “I want it” (while leaning back and acting laid back; do that too intensely and you got date rape written all over you). I got the number, however, I pointed to my cheek and she said she didn’t kiss I think on a first meeting, but it was hard to make out with the music. Decent number close (I’d say 50/50 shot I’ll see her again) and I found a new wingman. When I get the chance I’ll put a diagram of how we changed position in set.

-Diggz Out

Here’s an old post of Spirit Fingers, my roommate (from last November) which I felt deserves some renewed attention; Enjoy:There are many good techniques out there on ASF. There are also many bad techniques that are useless. However, even these useless techniques can work if you *believe* they will work. This is because it increases your confidence, which is what really attracts the girls. Ijjji has a good post on this on ASF:

Originally posted by ijjji on ASF

Consider the following:

“The placebo effect (also known as non-specific effects) is the phenomenon that a patient’s symptoms can be alleviated by an otherwise ineffective treatment, apparently because the individual expects or believes that it will work.”

“Other studies such as (Khan, 2000) have shown that up to 75% of the effectiveness of anti-depressant medication is due to the placebo-effect rather than the treatment itself.”

(thefreedictionary.com)

-Would it not be fair to expect that the effectiveness of any ‘PU method’ is likely to be between 90 and 100% due to the placebo effect?

-If you read something and it instantly ‘clicks’ in your mind and you feel sure its gonna work, should you read more or go test it ASAP?

-If you did something creative that seemed to make it happen with one girl, should you stick to it for a while or look for expert advice on mASF instead?

-If believing alone can cure disease, do you think it can get you laid too?

-If you have a method that works but don’t know how to make others believe in it, is there any point in posting it?

How do you distinguish between real and placebo techniques? Consider this. If you went up to 1000 girls and said “nice shoes…want to fuck?” do you think you would get laid once? You probably would. If you have to do an enormous amount of sets before you get any success from a technique, it’s probably not the technique that’s working, but the increased social experience you’re getting from all that interaction.

Also, look for what all successful PUAs have in common. Not all PUAs use routines, or NLP, direct or indirect game, magic tricks, cocky funny, hypnosis, etc. I am not saying these things do not help, but they are the ICING on the cake. The CORE is your inner game and system of beliefs, your style and image, your body language and tonality, your ability to create social proof, ability to screen and qualify, escalating strongly and without hesitation, strong vibing and spontaneous conversation skills, and being good in bed. All PUAs who have success do these things whether or not they realize it, which is strong evidence to believe that they are not placebo techniques.

Read more on Spirit Fingers’ blog here: Pickup and Sex Advice for Men

Tragically, I was unable to do any day game with my roommate due to our conflicting schedules, so instead we opted to due a lil Wednesday-night night game.  Ordinarily, from what I’ve seen at least, Tuesdays have the most dead night game with Wednesday coming in at a close second (if I had to go back to my office job, I’d be out drinking every Monday night).  Although different places have different times that suck/rock, most will agree on this: Wednesday night is not one of those constantly rocking nights.  Luckily, I had a plan: The Kells, a bar in Allston (a town just outside of Boston) has $1 draft nights on Wednesday.  Now, I can’t possibly convey to you the nastiness of said drafts… in fact, the only way I could even hint at it is something I uttered after chugging one: “Oh god I taste it in the back of my eyes…”  Nasty beer aside, The Kells makes Wednesday night rock some time around 12.

We get there and open a couple of sets, the most promising of which was this cute BU student in a large group who came with this Italian guy.  Now, when I say Italian guy, I mean a dude from Italy; his English kinda sucked.  He was a friend that she met while studying abroad, and this guy was definitely hooking up with her.  This complicated matters, but I wasn’t blown out just yet.  Turns out that we had a lot in common, and as I had her talking I could see he was getting more and more uncomfortable, going so far as to pull her on his lap while she was talking with me.  This didn’t stop her, and she told us that she dated a guy in Italy and when she dumped him he said it wasn’t over and smacked her in the face, so her opinion of Italian men as boyfriends wasn’t very high (very good sign).  Unfortunately the gay guy in the group (not like 5^th grade “you’re gay”, more like dude on dude action gay) saw that I was stealing her away and grabbed everyone and said “Hey let’s dance”, leading them into the next room and I wasn’t in a position to follow without SERIOUSLY damaging my standing in the set (in natural game, this is called “negative compliance”, which means that you’re the groups bitch and that’s NOT a good place to be).  Because of the connection I was able to establish with her in a brief period, and because the Italian guy is going to be gone soon (he’s here for “holiday”) I can bump into her again on another Wednesday night and pick up where I left off, but for the moment (and that night, unfortunately) I was blown out.

It wasn’t all woe for our hero though; I bumped into a guy that recognized me and my roommie from a speech/seminar that we were helping out at and I pulled him into our set, which wasn’t exactly the most flattering set (2 ugs and 1 decent girl) and we then wandered onto the dance floor.  I was just about floored when I noticed our newbie on his own with one of the better girls there, so I went up to the girls friend and used the only line I’ll ever use on the dancefloor (Hey, teach a white guy how to dance) and winged him a bit til I took off with my roommate to go into another set.  Before I continue, I’m going to share a few quick observations: look at the girls group (girls are NEVER alone on the dance floor in a club) and try to determine the attitude of it: is it a bunch of girls looking for someone else, or is it a tight-knit group?  From what I’ve seen, if you have 3 or more girls, you have a decent shot of getting one of them to dance with you so long as they aren’t dancing in a really small circle.  Also, girls like to dance with each other in a way we just can’t understand, so if you see two girls on the dance floor you aren’t going to be able to dance with them, or at least not with just one of them, for 2 reasons: 1) They’re having fun with each other, and 2) they aren’t going to let their friend stand by herself like a loser in the middle of a dance floor.  If you wanna handle a 2set on the dance floor, go to dance with both of them or bring in a wing, or your chances of success are pretty slim.  If, however, you spot a set with a guy and dancing with one of the girls wouldn’t isolate any of them, that set is going to be easy.  Finally, on the rare occasion that a girl has been abandoned by her only friend there that girl is practically begging for some guy to come in and rescue her before she gets a big “L” written on her forehead.

Back to my story though: Things were a lil lame, and then I told myself no way in hell I’m being shown up by a newbie, so we bump into a set with 2 ugs (they were like .5s) and a good looking one.  I’m dancing with my girl while I watch SpiritFingers heroically going above and beyond the call of wingmanship.  Dude, if there was a purple heart for grenade jumping on a dance floor, you’d have like 10 of em for that alone.  I was escalating the kino well (and practically getting a handjob on the dancefloor) when we went for the hooka extraction (god only knows the lengths to which my roommate would go to help me in the field).  The girls were in agreement that they wanted to go, and it looked like fools mate for me.  Unfortunately, they had to go grab their coats and one of the fatties must have cock blocked cuz we got ditched (ouch).

The lesson here?  The next time I go for an extraction, I’m going to grab my target by the hand (or, in some cases, a scarf works well b/c it’s like a leash and I’ve had some freaky chics that LOVE it) and not let them have too much time to overthink things.  Other than a few pitfalls, for a Wednesday, it was pretty rockin’

-Diggz Out

I feel like the first thing I should say is that I’m not a writer for The Game, and besides sarging with Mystery a while back I don’t have any contact with the guys from that book, but I have noticed that there were a couple of things that they didn’t go into.  First and foremost is social circle/party game. 

They never really mentioned (to the best of my recollection) that when you’re sarging at a party or sarging friends’ friends, being too cocky or negging isn’t such a great idea.  In fact, as bad as some guys can be when they first get into the PUA subculture as far as being pushovers, a lot get even worse by over-negging to compensate for feeling like “little bitches” being pushed around by their own insecurities.  I think that’s one of the worste problems in the lairs/community in general; negs definately have their place, but when I first got in, just like everyone, I negged the hell out of girls and sometimes it was kinda funny, but sometimes it got my ass blown right the hell out.  That said, lemme tell you, Woodhaven, Mystery and a lot of other highly-regarded PUAs know how to work a room; even Mystery, the guy most often associated with “neg”, is a pretty chill and when he was correcting someone he was assertive, and when the dude whined Mystery confidently commented “hey man, yea I’m drilling you a new asshole but it’s so that you can shit properly”, and it was true.

 For all those Halloween parties, negging is going to get you nowhere fast.  Go out peacocked by putting together a great costume.  In fact, make one yourself using makeup and different things that you can add.  For example, I went as a zombie.  One of my ex’s is now a special effects makeup artist, so she makes fake slash wounds, bullet wounds, knives with the knives still in, ect… and it got me a lil interested so this halloween I put together a nasty lookin’ costume (when my roommate gets in I’ll have a picture of some of the parts of my costume, though the glue I use for the special effects is a pain in the ass to get off; it’s like pulling off a giant band-aid that sticks to your hair b/c I didn’t shave my neck prior to putting it on).  I was able to use my costume as it came apart a little (the room was crazy so I had a little sweat, which caused some of the glue to come off around the corners) I had this cute Japanese girl help me glue it back together (situationally relevent, playful and gooooood compliance). 

In addition to this, while it may not be a good idea for everyone (we’ve all been traumatized by the fatty wearing way too little), Halloween is an opportunity to show off any work you’re doing in the gym (if you aren’t going to the gym, you should be; it’s one of those things that’s on the to do list of every good player I know).  You can do this easily by trying to find a costume that’s either ripped up or skin tight (I’ve even seen painted on pulled off nicely).  Remember, Halloween is a day that a lot of people use as an excuse to be sexy, and while I don’t really need an excuse it does make wearing a ripped up shirt a hell of a lot easier to pull off.

So remember boys, Halloween is a great time to go out and pick someone up, just make sure if you’re at a party you leave your negs at the door and bring a kickin’ costume that the girls can help you fix/put together.

-Diggz Out 

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